You are a dangerous beast

can we reduce pickup to one commandment, is that possible?

of course not, but if there is one thing i would tell my 18yo self, it would probably be this:

YOU GOTTA BE MORE DANGEROUS

dangerous is the best word i have found, so far, for what women are attracted to in men. other words: have more “edge”, be more “selfish”, be more “cocky funny”, have “amused mastery”, be “mysterious” and “powerful.”

all are close. but i think BE MORE DANGEROUS is the best one. it encapsulates the other stuff pretty well. a man who is dangerous is a man who:

-is confident and self directed
-has an edge
-is selfish about going after his own needs first
-can cause drama and heartbreak
-will probably face fuck her and do violent things to her in bed
-is strong and powerful

see what i mean?

the DANGEROUS MAN is the most exact opposite of the NICE GUY that i can think of. i do believe that ultimately, the best game is lifestyle game, eg. being famous and very high value — but that takes many years. so the closest mental shortcut as we all work on improving our value is: BE MORE DANGEROUS.

of course, that then brings up the question, how to be more dangerous?

well, that’s where we gotta look inside ourselves, and discover, which masculine archetype am i? we are all men, but we are not all the same. we have different strengths.

like i’ve said before, i used to want to be the wall street man. the powerful executive in a suit and a porsche. i tried that route. it wasn’t me. it took me many years to realize this. but it’s not me.

slowly, i am realizing that i have an artistic soul. i feel so much. i am very sensitive to beauty, to pain, to joy, to all kinds of things in this world. i am **not** a rock. i am not masculine, in that traditional sense.

so my style of game is going more to the I AM CRAZY type of pickup. the best example i can think of is russell brand.

i am thinking all this because i was checking out heartiste, and i really liked nash’s comment, and how he is pondering similar questions:

>> The laconic man is quite attractive to a woman primarily because his terseness induces a dread in her which has her wondering if he doesn’t feel motivated by her looks to bother impressing her with a fusillade of verbal prestidigitation.

I am fully onboard with this theory… but have just about never experienced it. In LTRs, definitely. In early dates/pickup… almost never.

I assume, there are things I could do to be more of the STRONG SILENT TYPE. Again, fully onboard with disqualifying the girl, making her work, etc. I assume that must be true.

But… this is also about knowing WHAT TYPE YOU ARE and WHAT TYPE SHE IS. That doesn’t preclude growth/improvement (mindsets, SMV, tactics, etc), but not all cohorts are identical here…

The cohort that matters most is knowing which type you are as the player… and then finding tactics that suit you… to get the type of girl you want.

I’ve been saying “different bait (=tactics) for different fish (=girls)” AND that certain patterns say a lot about the fisherman (=the player).

EX: If you like INTROVERTED girls… I do not know that “strong silent” game is going to work, unless you plan on winning these girls from your social circle over time.

If you are into cold approach… I don’t think “strong silent” is going to serve you. An occasion when it might… is if you have a lot of PASSIVE VALUE and she is EXTRAVERTED. That would work great. Or if you have a lot of passive value… and she’s LOW SELF ESTEEM… so she hustles to overcome her feelings of inadequacy.

If you have uncertain passive value… and she is high self esteem… and you sit there, not doing much… she’s going to think you’re boring. Or if she is introverted… you’ll make her anxious. Not sexy.

This is very much on my mind lately… and I have a feeling I’ll have a better sense for my own potential to run any kind of “strong silent” game in the next year.

Right now… I assume that doesn’t work for my type. More experience might open my eyes. We’ll see.

now, i think if you are the “strong silent masculine” type, then you channel your masculinity into an impressive masculine career. that’s how you develop your powerful side, your dangerous side.

if you are CRAZY, i think it’s tougher. us CRAZY types have a harder time channeling our craziness into a normal career, so we need to channel that craziness into an art form.

my art form is my photography. i am getting better at it, and i am slightly amazed by how it attracts women. i know i shouldn’t be, but i still am. some girls — not all girls, but some — they just LOVE artistic men. what can i say, they just do.

maybe i am oversimplifying/not seeing things correctly when i say that i see two main archetypes: crazy artistic men, and calm powerful men.

something like that?

not sure. all i really know is that my camera makes me dangerous. it draws girls in. my camera is my guitar. it’s my weapon of choice.

when heartiste makes that blanket statement that men should “talk less”, i know what he means, i know where he’s coming from, but it feels too facile, too fractured. it’s incomplete advice.

some men need to TALK MORE, and FEEL MORE, and GO CRAZY. art makes no sense, until it does. you can’t pursue art rationally. you gotta get in touch with your crazy side to make art.

it’s an interesting process.

i don’t know what else to say, i am kinda rambling. another somewhat related though, on this dangerous/crazy topic, is something to help my visualize all this. yes, i am talking about possibly introducing the rivelino mascot:

the snake.

this only occurred to me yesterday. i was looking for a little emoji for a tweet, and i tried out the snake, and i liked it.

i know the snake has some bad connotations, in PUA with “snake seduction”, and in general, with the snake being dangerous but in a sneaky way, so that’s not very masculine.

but, i like the snake because it’s phallic. whip it out. your snake. your dangerous object.

i think one of the biggest changes is when a man goes from being ashamed of his sexuality (hiding his cock) to realizing how much girls NEED AND WORSHIP cock, and so he starts becoming more proud and confident with what he has.

his snake.

it was very hard for me to make that transition. and i still struggle. when i met my wife, she loved my cock, but i thought it was just her. i didn’t value my cock, i thought i just got lucky.

now, finally, seven years after my divorce, i am building up my COCK self confidence. SKG miriam is really helping her. i think she’s a nympho. she loves to suck my dick! yesterday morning, before she ran off to the airport to pick up her cousin, we started making out, and she got on her knees on her own and just started sucking my dick like it was the most delicious thing she ever tasted. she LOVES to suck my cock. it’s a great experience and a great reminder.

the cock is all powerful.

whip out your snake.

you are a dangerous beast.