Be alpha, be authentic

i am fascinated by game. it is a beautiful blend of art and science. it involves social dynamics, psychology, fashion and style, sex, beautiful girls, courage, facing my fears, performance art, strategy and analysis, male camaraderie, high tech james bond stuff (the secret infield recordings), and more than anything else, drive, ambition, and the need to self reflect and self improve.

who am i? what is my identity? what am i good at? what do i have to offer? how can i improve? what am i afraid of? what makes me special? what makes me a high value man? how can i become higher value? how can i overcome my fears? what are my dreams? how can i achieve them?

this might all sound very dramatic, but this is all the shit that goes through my head when i think of chicks, and of picking up chicks. i think this is the reason why so many men have approach anxiety, because deep down, they feel that they are putting their self esteem and self worth in the hands of someone else, a pretty girl, and if she shoots him down, then he is WORTHLESS.

it’s true. these are the feelings that used to go through my head, and still go through my head.

this is why INDIFFERENCE is so important to achieve an alpha vibe.

and this is why it’s so hard to be INDIFFERENT but also AUTHENTIC.

and that, to me, is the big trick about game. be indifferent, be unreactive to her, don’t give away my power to her — and of course, spin lots of plates to keep my options open — but at the same time, be authentic, be real, be true, connect with her at the deeper emotional level. girls find that INCREDIBLY attractive. a man who is tough and strong and alpha, but also real, genuine, kind, warm, and authentic in the vibe he puts out. both require courage, and both require and prove that the man is comfortable in his skin, and proud of himself and his life.

so that’s why to me, if i had to describe game in four words, it would be:

be alpha, be authentic

which, if you think about it, are the first two stages of the M3 model.

anyway, this is came up from watching this video that krauser analyzed.

to me, the most important part of the krauser’s analysis was at the end. this is my comment on krauser’s page:

nick, excellent analysis. before i read your review, i saw the video myself and took my own notes to see what i could catch, and yeah, i noticed the overgaming at the end and wrote “didn’t snowflake her”, but i like much better how you described it:

“Destroying the earlier authenticity and she responds with nervous laughter. You don’t need that overgaming attraction shit when you’ve already moved into authentic communication. It telegraphs a lack of belief that you already have the girl.”

destroying the earlier authenticity — that’s the perfect way of saying it. start strong, impress her with alpha, but then move into an authentic vibe, which is crucial for comfort. this is brilliant. incredibly practical and useful. thanks man.

overall, i think this guy did fucking great. mostly, he did great cause he was rock solid. well he wasn’t rock solid, but he was close to being rock solid. he was comfortable, relaxed, confident, courageous, and unafraid. that girl had gorgeous legs, and he walked right up to her and started talking to her, and came on strong, teasing her, accusing her of flirting with him — and in a way, he’s right. this girl knows she has amazing legs, and is showing them off at the supermarket because, like krauser pointed out, she is hungry for some dick.

i don’t know if i am at the stage right now — wait, i know i’m not — where i could go up to a pair of amazing legs like that and just start chatting them up rock solid, no fear, in front of a bunch of people. so yeah, this guy is much more advanced than me. i gotta give him credit.

so that is inspiring. and, combined with krauser’s analysis, and realizing how he came on strong, but then wasn’t authentic enough — dammit, that is some good shit right there.

alright, 1130am on a beautiful sunday, gotta get off the computer, go take a shower and do stuff today.