good stuff from badger, on dalrock’s blog.
It’s also worth noting, for the benefit of new readers brought from the previous post, that there’s really two discussions of “game” going on in this community: you could call them micro-game and macro-game.
“Micro-game” is how to tune/change your behavior to increase a woman’s attraction to you or to otherwise influence her behavior (and we’ve noticed that the best way to modify a woman’s behavior is to become more attractive). Behavior in this sense is basically verbal and body language, distinct from your fitness, paycheck, etc. This is “game” in the original sense of the word – a piece of a man’s personality that is orthogonal to the other parts and specifically addresses how he deals with women.
“Macro-game” is the overall structure of who is attractive and why, and all the ways you can change your attractiveness and the relationships around you. This involves not just your social skills but your life habits, your fitness, fashion sense, the trajectory of your life.
Micro-game is why two guys with basically the same look, lifestyle and job will get different results from women – one of them understands how to socially interact with women.
Macro-game is why jocks and frat guys get sex on speeddial while Poindexter in the library struggles to get a date.
Micro-game almost always leads to macro-game in a guy’s improvement plan, because better social skills can only take you so far if you don’t have an improved lifestyle to back it with.
For most single guys, changing your verbal and body behavior can get you almost instantly improved results in the sexual marketplace. For LTR or married guys, you can’t just go approach a new girl and start over, so the focus is on how to better arrange your life habits and structure to get better treatment from your wife. As deti said in the previous thread, if you have structural issues taken care of (keep a job, keep a house, be a responsible adult), it becomes a matter of NOT doing the things that turn your wife off – stop whining, keep your hobbies, don’t beg for her approval.